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Divorce Horror Stories: The Truth Will Set You Free

My Collaborative colleagues and I often wish that our clients could clone themselves so they could see how their exact case would simultaneously play out in the litigation process and compare the outcomes to what they achieve in the Collaborative Divorce Process.  Many people don’t realize just how crazy and incendiary the litigation process can […]

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What Do Steve Jobs and Litigation Attorneys Have In Common?

Though the title of this post sounds like a set up for a bad joke,  it comes from a New York Times article which marveled at Steve Jobs being a “low tech” parent.  The author of the article was so perplexed by Jobs’  revelation that his children’s  usage of IPads and other technology was restricted, he […]

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The Unconscious Uncoupling Phenomenon

One of my Collaborative Divorce Process colleagues out of California, Jon Kramer, wrote a very interesting blog post about “conscious uncoupling” and the Collaborative Divorce Process (CDP).  In the post, he highlights that the CDP has always promoted “conscious uncoupling” before it became a trendy catchphrase, in that it facilitates thoughtful separation which preserves the […]

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Peace Through Personality: Breaching Differing Approaches in Conflict Resolution

Experience Life Magazine recently ran a very interesting article entitled Peace Through Personality (link here). The article uses the Enneagram of Personality Types to examine 9 different personalities, including strengths and weaknesses, to examine how people react differently to conflict and how this can effect attempts at conflict resolution. As a Collaborative Divorce Process (CDP) […]

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Writing the Story of Your Divorce

When people are beginning relationships or committing to marriage, they often take the time to chronicle these milestones through photographs, scrapbooks, journaling, etc. with the thought that they will someday share this story with their children, grandchildren, etc. I find it interesting that this concept is not similarly applied to the end of relationships. As […]

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Perceptions of Family Law in Michigan

I am not usually one for all of the random little Facebook quizzes, but I saw one the other day that piqued my interest. It was one of those “Which state are you from?” games and having a few moments to kill, I played. I rather surprisingly got Michigan, but the little description rationalizing the […]

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Learning from Jose: Where Are We Going?

Most dog owners know there are few things that get their pooch more excited than hearing the word “ride”.  Jose is no different– any time he sees me gathering my keys and putting on my shoes, he is prancing close to my side, just begging me to take him along.  The thing that I find […]

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Childhood Obesity & Divorce

A recent study by Norwegian researchers published in the BMJ Open (link) showed correlation between parental marital status and childhood obesity.  The researchers discovered that children of divorced parents had an 89% higher prevalence of abnormal obesity than children of married parents.  This trend was particularly true for boys. The researchers noted that this correlation doesn’t […]

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Waiting for Divorce

I was recently listening to John Tesh radio on a drive and the topic of couples who wait until their children go off to college to divorce came up and piqued my interest.  I have encountered many clients who recognize the trauma divorce can cause and the multitude of studies and “common knowledge” showing that […]

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Lessons in Forgiveness

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Louis B. Smedes Divorce by its very nature lends to holding grudges, rehashing past ills, and fostering resentment.  So many people imprison themselves (often trapping their children) in these feelings, allowing them to escalate and consume all of their […]

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